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cox5200 发表于 11-4-2013 09:40
即使孩子还小，还是得让他们清楚明白，任何人都得为自己的行为负责，没有任何借口可以替自己开脱，父母也不 ...

He is 4. I will learn. Thank you for you sincere advice.

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tianyizhy 发表于 11-4-2013 10:19
我赞成你不在外人面前骂孩子。这绝对是我教育孩子的一个很重要的原则。

孩子的规矩，从小养成；在家里，一 ...

Thank you. . It is just gentle push. But the main problem here is that he just cannot control his hands. I am actually worried in future he won't be able to control himself ,he will make a bigger mistake. InitIally I just want to vent out my anger. I really I was the one that is wrong.

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如果只是偶尔推推人家，也许教导一下会管用。

我见过有个两岁半的小孩，不善用语言表达，也不善观察学习。经常用肢体来表达他的喜怒。父母与托儿所的老师们都非常担心，他经常在人家不注意时，忽然推人一把，有次爬在游乐场的滑梯上，老师们如临大敌，把他哄下来，就怕他推一下其他小朋友，那是谁都会感到害怕的场景。他没有避一下或让一下的自然反应，只要谁从他后面走到他前面，他肯定推人家，或他走到人家后面了，人家还没避开，他就推了。

后来有个印度老师建议他父母带孩子去看医生，起初父母很生气，后来也带去检查，原来这小孩有轻微自闭。

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如果你觉得不在外人面前教育孩子是对的，那么你为什么认为别人把你孩子爱推人的事实告诉给其他人是错的？
如果我是对方孩子的父母，我看到你对自己的孩子不管不顾，我当然一定会把这种事告诉其他人。我不仅会跟别人说你的孩子爱推人，我还会说，这孩子的父母根本不教育孩子学好。

你已经在纵容你的孩子犯错了
醒醒吧

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cox5200 发表于 11-4-2013 09:40
即使孩子还小，还是得让他们清楚明白，任何人都得为自己的行为负责，没有任何借口可以替自己开脱，父母也不 ...

支持！！孩子要自立，孩子可以做的事，要让他养成习惯自己做，这样既可以自立，又可以体会父母的辛苦！！

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tianyizhy 发表于 11-4-2013 10:19
我赞成你不在外人面前骂孩子。这绝对是我教育孩子的一个很重要的原则。

孩子的规矩，从小养成；在家里，一 ...

我也不赞成在外人面前骂孩子。。。

但有时也要看是什么事，
记得在儿子小一时，我去接他，远远就看见几个小孩在一起互相推推搡搡。。。
当我走近时，看到一个很凶的妈妈在指责我的儿子，推他很高大的儿子，儿子抬着头，有点委屈得看着那个凶女人
我就上前问她，为什么？？她就拉啦一堆。。
我指着周围孩子问，谁看到我儿子推他了？
结果周围的孩子都说是那个大孩子推大家，大家推回他，刚好他妈妈来了，她就说是我儿子推他的。。
结果我就对那个大孩子说：对我儿子说对不起，因为你冤枉了他！！
那个大个子和妈妈说个对不起，匆匆跑了。。
儿子很开心说：我以为你会骂我呢？
我俩手拉手回家了。。
顺路教育他，不可以推小朋友，不要吵架，打架，要有礼貌！！

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JUNZIZI 发表于 11-4-2013 13:58
我也不赞成在外人面前骂孩子。。。

但有时也要看是什么事，

You are right. But I think the urgent thing I need to do is really correct him not to use his hand to settle problem. It is a small habit from what we observe. I think it started when he is very young, he was been pushed by a bigger kids in a shopping center without reason. As a mother, I feel I should give face to that kids. So I pull my kid away. He was 2 then. But it seems he felt bullied. But We just told him his mother would scold him. That's all. Subsequently , he started to go to school . His class got a lot other bullies and he was been pushed a few times bescause they snatch toys. I just told him need to be polite in order to gain friendship. He agreed.                                           But after he was been bullied, a few weeks later I was told by teacher he push people. And teacher told us the reason is because he do not want to share toys.

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I feel sad. But what we do is just scold and scold until he cry. We thought that would stop him. Now he is 4. It does not stopped. We concluded: he did not want people to take advantage and people invade to his place. What we can do now is to tell him to slow down. Let others kids have all the toys . If people want to go in front of you. Let them be.

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Thank all for the kind advices. Many thanks again!

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欢迎好运 发表于 11-4-2013 12:48
如果只是偶尔推推人家，也许教导一下会管用。

我见过有个两岁半的小孩，不善用语言表达，也不善观察学习。 ...

He is very talkative at home . From what we observe he just does not like people take advantage of him. Like standing in his place, play the things he likes to play... We would advised him to share. Thanks a lot. Really!